From the trenches
I am writing to you via my phone in the nursery as I attempt to get fussy Chalupa to nap.
I had some thoughts that were just recently (think like two minutes ago) proved wrong.
Chalupa, I thought two minutes ago,
doesn't appear to like going to sleep on a full tummy. He prefers the eat play sleep model. As opposed to G who still to this day likes to eat and go straight to sleep.
Chalupa also, I thought three minutes ago, will lay down slightly awake and drift peacefully off to sleep. It took G 7 months of hard time to get that.
All of this is BS though because I laid him down, unfed, sleepy but awake and where am I now? In the rocker nursing a sleeping kid. So take that all my theories!
Which just goes to prove theories are for math and not for babies.
My sister posted a pin about 8 rules to a happy baby or something. They were all fairly reasonable, except for only feed your baby if its been three hours and don't rock your child to sleep.
Here is what their doc told me when he recommended yet another book by another expert when at 6 months G was still waking up three times a night and I said I hated books: "books aren't bad, but just know your baby didnt read them"
And something Lewis and I say every time Chalupa fusses to be fed, "he's just trying to grow. He doesn't know that that interferes with our schedule."
Babies are just trying to grow. And the schedule thing for nursing mamas gives me pause because it sort of doesn't work. You need to nurse and comfort the baby as often as possible to get a good supply. Last time I drove myself nuts trying to get G on a schedule the first three months. All I accomplished? A crying, exhausted child who was too tired to eat a full feeding and therefore hungry again 90min later and then the cycle went on.
G is not all children. I know many happy babies on schedules. But going into motherhood with preconceived notions of rational, timely babies made my first few weeks harder than they needed to be. I had few mommy friends at the time. My son is the oldest. I just didn't know.
I am much calmer now just letting him be a baby on his terms and not mine. I will start bending him more to the terms of the house later. They are so little so short a time. And really... They aren't waking up to make you mad or tired or ruin your day, they are just trying to grow. They're just a bit hungry.
I had some thoughts that were just recently (think like two minutes ago) proved wrong.
Chalupa, I thought two minutes ago,
doesn't appear to like going to sleep on a full tummy. He prefers the eat play sleep model. As opposed to G who still to this day likes to eat and go straight to sleep.
Chalupa also, I thought three minutes ago, will lay down slightly awake and drift peacefully off to sleep. It took G 7 months of hard time to get that.
All of this is BS though because I laid him down, unfed, sleepy but awake and where am I now? In the rocker nursing a sleeping kid. So take that all my theories!
Which just goes to prove theories are for math and not for babies.
My sister posted a pin about 8 rules to a happy baby or something. They were all fairly reasonable, except for only feed your baby if its been three hours and don't rock your child to sleep.
Here is what their doc told me when he recommended yet another book by another expert when at 6 months G was still waking up three times a night and I said I hated books: "books aren't bad, but just know your baby didnt read them"
And something Lewis and I say every time Chalupa fusses to be fed, "he's just trying to grow. He doesn't know that that interferes with our schedule."
Babies are just trying to grow. And the schedule thing for nursing mamas gives me pause because it sort of doesn't work. You need to nurse and comfort the baby as often as possible to get a good supply. Last time I drove myself nuts trying to get G on a schedule the first three months. All I accomplished? A crying, exhausted child who was too tired to eat a full feeding and therefore hungry again 90min later and then the cycle went on.
G is not all children. I know many happy babies on schedules. But going into motherhood with preconceived notions of rational, timely babies made my first few weeks harder than they needed to be. I had few mommy friends at the time. My son is the oldest. I just didn't know.
I am much calmer now just letting him be a baby on his terms and not mine. I will start bending him more to the terms of the house later. They are so little so short a time. And really... They aren't waking up to make you mad or tired or ruin your day, they are just trying to grow. They're just a bit hungry.
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